The next decade....what's in store?
Musings of a yamfooted traveller still trying to shake off those last 20 pounds as she treks across the Caribbean
All who read here, post your arguments either in support of, or against, two people entering into a relationship with each other.
The personality learning, tip-toeing, compromise and having to think for two is exasperating and exhausting. Personally, I say just have sex.
Women or men should just have men or women (or women or men!) on demand. You feel to see this one tonight..... you call he. You want to see a different one another night, you call he. And everybody happy to get see you, even if it's just to talk or watch TV.
Lawks, dis sound so crass.
But seriously, why bother to go through all the headache that trying to establish a relationship (especially with somebody from a different culture) inevitably brings?
Let the best argument win!
Oh, I was talking to a friend on Messenger the other day and the conversation turned to men and relationships etc. So he asked what about me, if Grenada don't have no men. I told him yes, but I work 6 days a week, and then I don't go any where on the 7th to meet people. Work and home....home and work.
So he said to me...."you've chosen work over love then?". Can't work be love?
Posted by yamfoot at September 7, 2007 11:16 PMIf you have solid friendships and a dog you can get all of the benefits of a romance for a mere fraction of the the headache. The idea of having an "activity partner" or partners where one of the activities you enjoy together is sex sounds very enticing. Unfortunately my experience is that unless your partner(s) has absolutely no redeeming qualities and is someone you despise you will probably develop some sort of romantic/emotional attachment and end up with all the headache anyway :-( Which I guess is actually an argument for trying to establish a relationship--if you're going to have all the headache anyway things will go a lot more smoothly if you plan for it :-)
(will only post this once, promise)
Posted by: ~V~ at September 8, 2007 02:20 AMThe first is most people don't know themselves. Secondly, people don't make an attempt to become friends. Thirdly, people don't want to accept others as they are. There is often an attempt to transform someone into someting dem is expecting in life and not accepting a person as they are. Most people want to get involved and not know each other. Here in lies the beginnings of the headaches. If I know you work six days per week and rest on the seventh, in order for us to maintain a friendship I would truely have to accept you as you are without attempting to change that. Then we would truely have the begginings of a "real" friendship. I would contend, one can deal with people of any culture, and circumstance if those persons are open to learning, and can understand a lifestyle different than theirs. Agian one has to know oneself, be true to oneself. I love women, but I am not willing to compromise myself and lifestyle to be with anyone. People need to have a meeting of the minds without pretense before entering any kind of relationship. Because, when you create a new friendship you have just entered into a relationship.
Posted by: EnSayn at September 13, 2007 05:05 PM